I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry.
I sat and listened as my friend poured out her heart and soul. She was devastated, frustrated, angry and felt totally alone.
I remember a few years back this same friend had come to my rescue. After a simple phone call at 10:00 at night, she showed up on my doorstep. She wasn’t there to fix anything. She was there just “to be”!
This concept of not fixing something can be very difficult for some people. Not to sound sexist or anything, I know for men it can be extremely difficult. They are naturally born fixers and problem solvers. However, there are many times we women don’t need “fixes” or even solutions. We just need someone “to be”.
There are many times in life where there are no words to fix things. I am reminded of a song by Jason Gray, Not Right Now.
Don’t tell me when I’m grieving
That this happened for a reason
Maybe one day we’ll talk about the dreams that had to die
For new ones to come alive
But not right now
While I wait for the smoke to clear
You don’t even have to speak
Just sit with me in the ashes here
And together we can pray for peace
To the one acquainted with our grief
I know someday
I know somehow
I’ll be okay
But not right now
Not right now
This song always reminds me of Psalms 40:1. There are many times I wait for the Lord because I just want him to listen to my cry. This verse tells us he turns to us and listens. He is just there. We are not alone. We are not forgotten. He is listening. He is just “being”.
My response to my friend was simple. I told her I was sorry. I wish I could fix it, but I know I can’t. I could give her a million “Christian” things to say and verses of encouragement, but I knew they wouldn’t help, right now. So, I offered to just listen and empathize with her. I told her when she needed me to be her cheerleader and encourager I would, but today I was just going to sit with her and be miserable with her so she was not alone. I was just going “to be”.
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